3 Things You Must Do to Attract the Right People
Transformational guidance that transcends quick fixes the self-help crowd wants to feed you. Most never learn this and they settle for the wrong people or they remain single.
People are desperate to find out “How can I make someone attracted to me?” “What can I do to be ‘more’ attractive”.
Lots of dating advice is out there on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, and even here on Medium and Substack. But, it’s not about being “more” attractive. You can’t get any more attractive than you are now.
With some effort, you’ll attract people. But, they won’t be the caliber you want.
This isn’t a “quick tips” garbage article. It’s not about getting fleeting dating and relationship success. It’s about doing inner work and self-reflection. These things guarantee long-lasting results.
You can say or do things that will draw people’s attention to you. They may like you for a little while, for a few weeks, or a couple of months. But, whatever façade you’re maintaining will collapse.
So, I won’t give you bullshit advice. It won’t “make” someone feel aroused by your well-crafted persona.
If you’re ready to read how to grow in ways that will spread to other areas of your life, here are three things you need to do to change who’s attracted to you.
1. Strengthen your core identity
In an earlier article, I wrote:
This Is How Your Identity Shelters You From Your True Potential
3 questions you need to ask yourself for permanent growthmedium.com
Why, for example, might someone see people as a threat, and by extension develop anxiety from this perception? What do you gain from being in a state of anxiety?
Where did it come from?
The more I learned, I saw the ego as a shield or a firewall that works tirelessly to protect you, but there are times when it gets out of control. It shuts down, overreacts, behaves irrationally, or influences you to say nasty things.
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