Feeling ‘Incomplete’ is the Sign You Need
How surrendering to your unease guides you to your life’s purpose
What if you’re meant to feel like something is missing?
Too often, we interpret the feeling of “incomplete” as something to fix. What if it’s not a problem, but something else?
What if it’s a positive indicator in your life?
A sign that it’s time to move on and grow into who you’re supposed to be.
The reason why you might have to re-frame this is simple.
There’s a prevailing narrative in “spirituality” or new-age circles that if you feel like something’s missing in your life, the answer is to just “let go” or “find wholeness within.”
If you could just “be okay” with how things “are,” you would feel whole.
The feeling that you’re missing something is exactly what you should feel.
I’ve felt restless in my job and my personal life for a long time. It’s difficult to describe, but I often catch myself fantasizing or looking toward “something” that doesn’t exist.
It is as if something isn’t right and needs to change.
And I know what needs to change. I’m meant to be a lover and a creator. I want to write, draw, share my creations, market my products, and connect with someone who sees and values those parts of me.
I need to love deeply but with discernment. It’s not enough to be a lover — I’ve been there, but to be one to the right person. And not just anyone because a relationship on its own isn’t fulfilling.
Instead, I’m in a 9-to-5 job that feels completely out of sync with who I am, and I’m not with anyone right now.
It’s kind of like trying to fit into the mold of someone else’s life. There’s no doubt that someone else would dream of having a simple 9-to-5, living alone, and just having a simple life with their two pets.
But this isn’t necessarily the life that I consciously “chose” to have. I want more.
No amount of “letting go” or “being grateful” will ease the discomfort that I feel, because it’s not about gratitude — it’s about living a life that feels like mine.
Feeling “incomplete” may actually be a call to pay attention.
It might be a crucial sign that you should look to what your inner child still longs for.
What would that child say about the life you’re living now?
Could you recommend the life you’re living to someone else?
If the universe told you this was the life you were destined to live, could you accept that?
Don’t settle for what you have if something feels “missing. Lean into it and ask yourself, where am I not being true to myself?
You might be meant to feel like something is missing because that feeling is the motivation you need to make the right adjustments.
For example, if you feel incomplete and lonely that might be a sign you need to take action by meeting new people. Or sending out a text to “get the ball rolling” on your social/love life.
Or if it feels like you’re in a dead-end job it may be time to re-examine your goals, update your resume, build new skills, and find new work. In some cases, the daily grind might not be your thing, and a business might be what you’re after.
I can’t speak for you; this is something you have to figure out.
But it starts with a bit of self-reflection.
The other day I took some to reconnect and write down the things that made me feel whole.
There was a moment I shared with someone a while ago. Kissing her, holding her, and just existing in the moment. Just the two of us on our first date in a cemetery. Sounds cheesy, but it was a freeing experience that felt authentic.
It was like an anchor — a reminder of who I’m supposed to be beneath all the pretense and all the BS that I put up with every day.
That moment captured the type of love I’m seeking — one that feels genuine, deep, and unforced. It was brief, but it was a glimpse into feeling “whole.”
Of course, that’s not to say that one should become dependent on love, relationships, careers, money, or other personal circumstances.
If you do that, you’re giving away your power to external forces that are in constant flux. Life likes to “life.” Shit happens, people come and go. You lose your job or even get a new one. It doesn’t matter, things change, and it’s not wise to become dependent on those things for fulfillment.
You have to have a mindset of I can seek meaningful relationships, connections, and fulfilling work without placing my worth on those things.
And that’s the key word there, worth.
Don’t tie your worth to what you have or don’t have.
When I recall childhood, I remember a feeling of wholeness, a sense that I was doing exactly what I was meant to do. Long before all the requirements of adulthood started to kick in.
So, do you remember what made you feel whole as a child?
The way you played, the things you created, and the ways you connected with others are clues — little hints to what you know you should be doing.
Remember, wholeness doesn’t come from adding “more” to your life. Whether it’s a better job, a partner, or some other experience.
Wholeness comes from being in tune and aligned with what truly matters. And you might have to challenge your current situation to get there.
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