How to Date an Avoidant Without Feeling Like You’re Chasing
The goal isn’t to make them stay — it’s to stay true to yourself
Have you ever dated someone who is distant, guarded, or standoffish?
They seem to have one foot in and one foot out of the relationship.
That’s what it’s like dating an avoidant.
Your first inclination is likely:
To chase or pursue them further
Or control their behavior through various ways
But this is a losing battle because the more you chase or pour energy into them, the more the avoidant will pull away.
(Though… to be fair, in the courtship process, a little bit of chasing is fun and provides sexual tension, but dating should never feel like a huge challenge)
If you’re serious about dating an avoidant, expect to put in a lot of energy without a guaranteed return on that investment.
In this article you will learn how to:
Directly communicate your wants and needs
Shift your focus from fixing the relationship to investing in one that flows naturally (matching their energy)
Walk away from someone who isn’t reciprocating
You will also get exclusive access to a private Notion document featuring my updated list of 14 Red Flags in Dating—part of my upcoming new product. After reading, you'll gain a deeper understanding of avoidant red flags and how to spot them.
This article also includes links to key resources to help you better navigate relationships—with others and yourself.