The Inner Compass

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How to Date and Filter Potential Lovers Using a Simple Formula

How to Date and Filter Potential Lovers Using a Simple Formula

Because real statistics will humble your dating standards (and save you time)

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Lucien Cross
Apr 23, 2025
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People have all these “standards” in dating that are often well-intentioned, but they either come from a place of avoidance, pride, or delusion.

You have average people in terms of their behavior (and appearance) who firmly believe that they’re entitled and deserving of a high-status, succesful, 9 or 10 who has no wants or needs of their own and will entirely cater to that person.

It’s a symptom of an inexperienced dater. Well, that coupled with narcissism and ego.

For one thing, most people don’t ask themselves the right questions.

What do I want? Who do I want to be with? How should my relationship play out? What do I have to offer?

Instead, they go through life being dragged along with the wind.

If you date like this, you’re probably ending up FAR from where you wanted to be, and if you want to un-fuck your love life, well, that’s now a lot of work.

Standards that are too high also tend to block out a lot of real, potential relationships, leaving you single.

📌Here’s what you can expect out of this story:

✅ Filtering fundamentals and how they work
✅ How to determine your chances of meeting your next partner
✅ When to know it’s the right time to settle for someone

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