Why People Keep Disappointing You (Hint: It’s Not Them)

This is the worst habit that’s screwing up your relationships

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I made this mistake, and it cost me over 5 years of my life, and I will never get them back. And more dating fuck ups later on.

You have to train most people how you want to be treated. Otherwise, they’ll default to what they feel is right for them.

Most people aren’t mind readers, and they’re not trying to disrespect you. But they WILL subtly test your limits, and you assuming they won’t, is what sours everything when you let things slide.

Let’s say you plan a nice date with dinner, drinks. The whole thing.

In your head, you’re already calculating what this “should” get you:

• A kiss or a make-out session.

• Sex.

• A second date, or whatever.

When it doesn’t happen, you feel not only disappointed, but you feel fucking cheated. Like she owes you something.

Or it might sound something like this, deeper into the relationship:

• “If I sleep with you, you should want to be in a relationship with me.”

• “If I’m vulnerable and share my feelings, you should reciprocate and open up too.”

• “If I support you through your problems, you should prioritize me over your friends/hobbies.”

There’s a common denominator here, and it’s not their behavior.

Here’s what it is: